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More Than an Eggplant

An introduction is in order… in fact, it’s long overdue
Papa Fob will work, as will any bassinet coo
For so long, this my prayer, “God, let a little one sprout”
With pop’s medical history, your odds? … always in doubt

But the call finally came, JannyBoo and I on the bed
Your dad broke the news, and many tears were shed
Real tears, little one, my face in my palms
Overwhelmed with emotion, like the writers of the Psalms

We asked, “How far along?” … so much info to glean
“Just 8 weeks,” your mom said, “the size of a kidney bean”
Just a bean? I thought, but the promise of something more
At least no longer a poppyseed, like you were in Week 4

At Week 9, grape status, eyes fully formed, though shut
About an inch and an ounce, enough for Papa Fob to strut
Week 10, organs formed, you’re now officially a fetus
They say you’re a kumquat, but at least you’re not a Cletus

Week 11, level up, our grand is getting big
Rocking fingers and toes now, pay no mind that you’re just a fig
Week 12, vitals finished, is this lime more than a dream?
Your mom’s feeling nauseous, seems she’s taking one for the team

Just a peapod at Week 13, but there’s hope, no room for gloom
Your friend, the God of Heaven, He said, “I knew you in the womb”
A lemon at Week 14, but Lemon Laws don’t apply
You can squint, frown, and pee, and suck your thumb if you really try

Week 15, just an apple, but your skeleton’s now in view
You’re curling toes and kicking, in utero aerobics… who knew?
Week 16 brings avocado status, and I let this thought slip
If we squeezed Mom’s belly now, would she pass guacamole dip?

Week 17, now a turnip, 5+ inches from crown to rump
Your momma? Not fat, but the lady is showing a bump
Have I mentioned my plans? Lots of hopes, lots of wishin’
Long hikes and long talks, playing catch, going fishin’

At Week 18, the big news, the scans show a stem
Wake your neighbors, phone your friends, we’re having a him!
Bradford Genry, to be precise, yes, it seems you’ve got a name
And the Johnson name lives on, an announcement to proclaim!

Genry from your mom’s side, a reason to be glad
Bradford, from me, your Uncle Jas, and your great granddad
You’ve got unique prints now, on each fingertip and toe
You’re up to a bell pepper, our little man continues to grow!

Week 19, level up, you’re now an heirloom tomato,
Better hide you from Papa Raymond, he gorges maters, oh no!
A banana at Week 20, the anticipation never ending
You’re about 10 ounces now, with testicles descending

Week 21 arrived, today’s ultrasound made us glad
Though just a carrot in length, you look like great-grandpa Brad!
Your arms and legs in proportion, they say you can really move
You get that from your parents, their intern dance moves full of groove

I see you!

Week 22, spaghetti squash, and notable traits to espouse
Distinct lips, unmistakable eyes, and Lil Bradford has some brows!
A large mango, Week 23, and we’re grateful for the last check
The ultrasound shows you’re healthy, no signs of dad’s giraffe neck!

Week 24, an ear of corn, that’s just so sweet… aw shucks
1.5 pounds and over a foot, we must have ordered the deluxe
Premature, perhaps, I know you’re still a tad bit frail
But when you’re older, say middle school, they’ll be no pooping on the trail!

Anticipating a shower, JannyBoo buys stuff left and right
Enough “cute clothes” I said, let’s get our grand a kite!
Or maybe a bike or a puppy? Let’s be creative, I said
I’d have given you our beagle, but I’m afraid that Mandy’s dead

Week 25, something special, in Nashville we got to meet
I spoke to lil rutabaga through a belly button, a portal by Mom’s knees
I asked how you were doing, and you heard me, I was sure
But then I heard a rumbling… was it gas, or maybe a snore?

Week 26, just a scallion, and a family text debate
Should we call you Brad or Bradford, or maybe Ford or Fjord would rate?
A Week 27 advance, you’re now a head of cauliflower,
I pray for you and Mom daily, because in prayer there’s lots of power

Your eyes are now open, Bradford, there’s so much for you to view!
Sunsets and waterfalls, and maybe a National Park or two
You’ll be raised in a Christian home, of that I am quite sure
But you’ll need to make faith your own, one day, so that your future is secure

That brings us to today, little man, can’t wait to hold you in my palms
Still overwhelmed with emotion, like the writers of the Psalms
I already love you, Bradford, one day I’ll bounce you on my knee
Just Week 28, but listen up… you’re more than an eggplant to me!

I’m a Boy!
Bradford Genry Johnson

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Spending Yourself

“In all things I have shown you that by working hard in this way we must help the weak and remember the words of the Lord Jesus, how he himself said, ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’” – Acts 20:35

Earlier this summer, several friends and I had the opportunity to leave our comfortable, middle class American lives and return to Honduras, where 52.4% of souls live in poverty and 13.3% in extreme poverty. We hoped to make a difference, maybe change a life or two. By now I should have known, it would be our lives that would be changed.

Among various projects, we set out to build a house for Marta, a 42-year-old single mom, and Amiel, her precious 4-year-old daughter. (The name Amiel, quite fittingly as you’ll see, is of Hebrew origin and means My People Belong to God.) The young girl and her mom had been abandoned by Amiel’s biological father and were living in a small, primitive dwelling—a place you might store a riding lawnmower and a few tools. Marta struggles to make ends meet by buying and selling American clothes and cleaning people’s homes. Like many in Honduras, this family owns next to nothing.

Throughout the day, our team interacted with little Amiel, and two of our younger ladies spent considerable time with her. As the only Honduran child on the job site, she was thrilled to be the lone recipient of various toys, snacks, candy, and attention. Our loud hammering was interrupted throughout the day by the 4-year-old’s delightful cackling, as she blew bubbles and swung on a makeshift swing.

Toward the end of the build, as we were nailing the final few nails and gathering our tools, I felt a tug on my leg. Little Amiel was making the rounds, giving each missionary a calf-level hug. That alone would have been enough—just seeing a small child express appreciation for our efforts.

But Amiel wasn’t finished. She reached into her bag of goodies—pretty much everything she owned in the world—and pulled out a smaller bag of candy that had been given to her earlier in the day. She wanted me to have it. I felt a lump in my throat and wiped my eyes. Although she had, to my knowledge, little to no direct exposure to Jesus’ teachings, she was embodying the point of today’s passage. Giving something back, even though she owned so little, brought her joy—it blessed her.

Chilean author Isabel Allende writes, “You only have what you give. It’s by spending yourself that you become rich.” Though just four years old and living in poverty, Amiel discovered that day what it means to be rich, and in doing so, taught us all a valuable lesson.

Amiel, Amiel, a name so fitting—your people belong to God.

Betsy, Amiel, and friends

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The Anchor of the Soul

“We have this hope as an anchor for the soul, firm and secure. It enters the inner sanctuary behind the curtain, where our forerunner, Jesus, has entered on our behalf.” – Hebrews 6:19-20a (NIV)

My friend and fellow Air Force Veteran, Bill Tate, tells the story of a San Salvador scuba diving trip he went on in 1979 with his son, Steve. As the dive boat headed out to the island’s point, the divers were joined by “Sandy,” a juvenile bottle-nosed dolphin who became separated from his pod and lived in these waters in the late 1970s. Sandy loved to swim alongside the dive boats as they motored out to their dive site and then swim and frolic with divers as they exited their boats. Bill suspects that Sandy swam with tourists as a substitute for swimming with his long-lost pod.

Bill captured pictures from the trip on a home movie camera in an underwater Plexiglas housing. After several minutes of filming his son and other divers playing with Sandy, he released the camera, allowing it to float above his head while still tied to his belt. With his hands free, he was able to pet and ride on the back of Sandy. They even did barrel rolls together—such fun! 

A short time later, Bill was surprised to find that he only had 200 pounds of air left in his tank. It was time to ascend to the boat. Since they were diving in 30 feet of water, a five-minute rest stop was required at a depth of five feet to offload any excess nitrogen and prevent an illness known as the bends. 

Bill calculated he had enough time for the five-minute rest stop. However, when he looked for the anchor, which would lead him to the safety of the boat, he couldn’t find it. He had lost sight of the anchor—something amateur divers are trained never to do. To make matters worse, his dive buddy—his son—was nowhere to be seen.

Bill’s training taught him to go up and look for Steve floating on the surface or for bubbles which might identify the location of his breathing apparatus. Unfortunately, at the surface, neither Steve nor the bubbles were visible. Bill eventually spotted the dive boat about 700 yards closer to shore from his current position. His heart sank. It was apparent that the outgoing tide, the current, and the wind had swept him away from the anchor and the boat while he was playing with Sandy. 

It seemed to Bill that his only hope rested in his ability to swim back to the vessel, but the surface forces continued pushing him farther out to sea. He tried swimming 10 feet below the surface with his scuba system, but five minutes of anxious, rapid breathing emptied his air tank. He then tried to use the snorkel but found that he needed much more air to swim against the current and tide than what was available through the small snorkel tube. 

Next, he tried swimming on his back with his flotation device providing support, allowing him to breathe easier. However, after swimming several minutes, he discovered he had made no progress toward the safety of the boat. His situation was dire.

Bill recalled he had a whistle attached to his flotation device. He blew on it for several minutes, hoping to call attention to his predicament. Unfortunately, the other divers, 700 yards upwind from his location, didn’t hear him. At that point, Bill was exhausted and simply gave up. He quit struggling and resigned himself to his fate—he would drift farther out to sea and die there.  

Just then, Sandy swam up beside him. Bill hooked an arm around the mammal’s dorsal fin and got a ride back toward the boat. When they were about 20 yards away, Sandy turned to swim back out, apparently not wanting to become entangled in anchor lines and other nearby dangers. Just as Sandy turned, the divemaster yelled, “Let go of the fish!” When Bill did that, the divemaster swam out to help him back to the boat, where he found his son.

Bill believes God taught him two important lessons that day. The note from my Bible’s margin reads:

  1. Never lose sight of the anchor for your soul. When Bill became entangled in the fun he was having in life, he says he lost focus on his anchor, Jesus. In the process, he also lost his son. When we lose sight of our anchor—Christ—we may not only lose ourselves but those most precious to us.
  1. When we quit struggling and trying to do everything by ourselves, perhaps only then can we see what God has in store for us. The psalmist writes, “Be still, and know that I am God” (Psalm 46:10a). Sandy would not have come to help Bill while he was thrashing around. But when he became still, Sandy appeared and saved the day. God is ready to do the same! 

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The In-Law Chronicles, Episode 9: Trees in Winter

“Even to your old age I am he, and to gray hairs I will carry you. I have made, and I will bear; I will carry and will save.”      – Isaiah 46:4

My live-in in-laws occasionally comment on being past their prime. At nearly 90 and 84 years of age, respectively, Raymond and Shirley lament having outlived their usefulness, especially as it relates to ministry. They can no longer do the things they once did. Of course, we remind them that although the way God is using them may have changed, He’s still using them. They continue to make a difference in the lives of the people around them.

Their concern is common; some seniors have it even worse. Walking down the halls of a nursing home, I glance inside rooms full of people in the homestretch of life. Some have no family or friends. Others spend their days staring at a television screen or a wall. I struggle to find meaning in these infirmed seniors’ bleak existence. Why is God keeping them around?

Brother Lawrence, a medieval monk, offers a more enlightened perspective. In The Practice of the Presence of God, he sees all of humanity as trees in winter. Though having little to offer, stripped of leaves and color and growth, each soul is loved by God unconditionally anyway.

How are we to treat aged family members who are no longer useful in the traditional meaning of the word? How should nursing home workers approach yet another wrinkled resident staring off into space? The note from my Bible’s margin reads: We are to love seniors unconditionally; the way God loves them—like trees in winter.

In Bird by Bird, Anne Lamott writes, “Dying people can teach us this most directly. Often the attributes that define them drop away—the hair, the shape, the skills, the cleverness. And then it turns out that the packaging is not who that person has really been all along. Without the package, another sort of beauty shines through.”

I have learned more from my in-laws in their physical decline than I ever learned from them at the top of their game. I’ve gained more from hearing Raymond speak a few kind words to a struggling former prisoner than from any of his longer, more robust sermons. I’ve been blessed by watching Shirley’s cane-assisted hobble to the back porch, easing herself into a sunlit chair, and pouring over God’s Word like a treasure map.

Like trees in winter, my in-laws have lost some vitality—they’ve shed some leaves. But I love them unconditionally anyway. I also watch them carefully because they are teaching me how to live.

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Uncomfortable Zones

“To the weak I became weak, that I might win the weak…”   – 1 Corinthians 9:22a

Although I’ve enjoyed every mission trip I’ve been on, they are not like being at home. I’m not in my comfort zone. The Honduran food, while outstanding, is not the same as my wife’s cooking. What’s with the gooey fried plantains crowding my flour tortillas?

The housing situation, while decent, is not the same as home. Lying on a “church camp mattress,” I see the light of a friend’s reading lamp, hear a chorus of snorers, and smell damp towels and soiled work clothes. I reach for my earplugs and eye mask, then dab menthol ointment under my nostrils. 

The work, while rewarding, is not the same as my usual tasks. The poverty in every direction evokes sadness and maybe a little guilt. The home-building stretches muscles beyond what they’re accustomed to. Carrying two 25-lb bags of food up a hill in a poor village multiple times taxes the forearms and lungs. Rewarding, but uncomfortable.

The language, while fun to learn, is not the same as speaking English. My poor pronunciation and grammar elicit puzzled looks, giggles, and the occasional wrong food order. In Mr. Gaspar’s 8th grade Spanish class at Mascoutah Junior High School, I wish I had learned how to order the #2 meal at a Tegucigalpa KFC rather than recite the Pledge of Allegiance in Spanish. When trying to communicate anything beyond basic phrases, I’m not at my best. When in doubt, I offer “No comprendo. Lo siento. Dios te ama.”

Driving in Honduras? More terrifying than uncomfortable. Driving a pickup truck in Choluteca several years ago, I got honked at and “gestured” for stopping behind a stopped school bus dropping off children. What was I thinking? Uncomfortable, for sure. But I keep driving. Albert Einstein once said, “A ship is always safe at the shore—but that is not what it is built for.”

Experience has taught me that my uncomfortableness with the food, housing, workload, language, and driving is by design. The note from my Bible’s margin reads: Working outside my comfort zone has a three-fold purpose:

  1. I learn to rely on God, rather than myself. “God, I’m weary, but give me the strength to finish the day.” “God, I don’t know the exact words to say to this poor widow standing in front of me but help me to convey that Jesus loves her and I do too.” “God, if I end up with original recipe and coleslaw rather than extra crispy and mashed potatoes, help me to be thankful to you that I’m eating today.”
  1. I learn to identify with the people I’m serving. After a night of restless sleep in an unfamiliar environment, I may better appreciate the predicament of someone living in a cardboard box under a tarp. After a bout of upset stomach from drinking non-potable water, I may be more empathetic to the family whose only water comes from a nearby mud puddle.
  1. I grow into a better version of myself. After a week of serving souls in uncomfortable environs on foreign soil, I may return home with increased sensitivity to the needs of hurting people in my own community. Is it possible helping others, every day, can become my new normal? I hope so. Can I become a little bolder in letting my light shine in a dark world? That’s the goal. As Brene Brown puts it, “You can choose courage, or you can choose comfort. You cannot have both.”

Granted, my uncomfortableness is on a far lesser scale than people living in poverty, unsure where their next meal will come from. I thank God for blessing me physically and spiritually. But I also thank God for the times I’m pushed outside my comfort zone. I’m old enough to know that what doesn’t challenge me, doesn’t change me. Sometimes it’s only by being uncomfortably challenged that I truly lean on God—only then that I open my eyes to the plight of those He has called me to serve.

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Meaningless!

“‘Meaningless! Meaningless!’ says the Teacher. ‘Utterly meaningless! Everything is meaningless.’”        – Ecclesiastes 1:2

The funnel cakes at the Tennessee Valley Fair are overpriced and unhealthy. The Beer Garden is not my scene. Likewise, I have no desire to peruse the horticulture competitions, featuring the “Best Pair of Okra Pods.” Still, I go to the annual fair if only to visit my all-time favorite attraction—the petting zoo. Where else can you bond with a drooling camel or watch a boa constrictor suffocate and devour third place in the commercial bred rabbit division?  

The crown jewel of the petting zoo, however, is the duckling exhibit. For 20 minutes, I watch dozens of adorable baby fowl swim in a baby pool, climb a ramp, and jostle for position to reach a food container. As they strain for the unreachable pellets, they drop onto a ramp and slide down into the water to repeat the process. All day long!

Missed again!

I want to shout to these naive little ducklings, “Excuse me! Can I have your attention, please? Your system isn’t working! You keep circling and climbing and reaching, but you never get full. There’s got to be a better way!”

Toward the end of his life, Solomon realized that everything in the world was empty and void of meaning. He sums up his depressing viewpoint with, “I have seen all the things that are done under the sun; all of them are meaningless, a chasing after the wind” (Ecclesiastes 1:14). 

Note the phrase “under the sun”—the key to the verse and the entire book. Solomon is sharing an earthbound, godless perspective—life “under the sun.” Throughout Ecclesiastes, he shares 10 meaningless, earthly pursuits: human wisdom (2:14–16); labor (2:18–23); amassing things (2:26); life itself (3:18–22); competition (4:4); selfish overwork (4:7–8); power and authority (4:16); greed (5:10); wealth and accolades (6:1–2); and perfunctory religion (8:10–14).

The note from my Bible’s margin reads: Apart from God’s will, earthly pursuits are meaningless—a chasing after the wind. Solomon had the resources to try it all, but when he left God out of the equation, he was unsatisfied. His life lacked purpose. He was like those ducklings—circling, climbing, jostling, and reaching—but unfulfilled. In Ecclesiastes 12:13b, he concludes, “Fear God and keep his commandments, for this is the whole duty of man.”

What are you circling and chasing? What rewards do you seek? Is the ladder you’re climbing leaned against the right wall?

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“Shouldn’t We Pray?”

On Saturday, April 24th, 2010, we loaded a church van full of 25 or so eager young people and made the two-hour journey to Florida’s Mount Dora Christian Academy. We spent the day doing yardwork, sharing lunch, having a devotional, and hanging out with the residents of the children’s homes and their house parents. At the conclusion of our annual pilgrimage, we said farewell and loaded the bus for the journey home. As I took my place on the front right seat, across from bus driver Jim Adair, I reflected on a tiring but productive youth outing.

At approximately 4 p.m., while traveling southbound on Florida State Road 33 in Polk County, I was chatting with Jim about our favorite college football team, the Tennessee Volunteers. Suddenly, a car in the northbound lane lost control, swerved to the right, then careened counterclockwise into our lane. I yelled something and extended my arms to brace for impact. Our alert driver swerved to the right to avoid the car but hit it broadside and drove it several yards off the road, narrowly avoiding a tree. 

With adrenalin pulsing through my veins, I swung my head around to check on our young people. Though shaken and in various stages of shock, there didn’t appear to be any life-threatening injuries. I yelled, “Is everyone okay?” and they responded with head nods. Our bus driver was also intact, despite the deployed airbags and the front end of our church van being completely crushed. 

I told everyone to stay put—that I was going to go check on the other vehicle. Austin Clouse, a high school student in the back of the bus, replied, “Shouldn’t we pray?” His instinct blew me away! Still does to this day. Here we are in the middle of a horrific accident scene and a high school sophomore has the presence of mind and faith to suggest that before we do anything else, we touch base with God. I nodded and Austin led us in a brief prayer, asking for God’s help as we dealt with this terrible situation.

I exited the bus and made my way over to the passenger side of the crushed Volkswagen. The driver, 47-year-old Becky Barner of Groveland, Florida, was deceased. Her passenger and best friend, Irma Rosario, was banged up but alive. Irma asked, “Is she okay?” I patted her shoulder and replied something along the lines of, “Ambulances are on the way, ma’am. Just take a deep breath and try to remain calm. I’ll stay here with you.”

By that time, a couple of neighbors had exited their homes and our young people were departing the bus on account of the dust particles from the deployed airbags. They were separated into two groups: those that were uninjured and those that were banged up and would need medical attention. The neighbors were kind enough to let us use their restrooms and stayed on the scene until the ambulances, EMT, and various parents arrived. 

The memory from that day left an emotional scar—some scenes can’t be unseen. From that point forward, loading a church van full of young people took on added significance. Seatbelt reminders became visual seatbelt checks. The incident reinforced the notion that a youth minister’s concern for his youth group involves more than just their spiritual condition. It also served as a reminder that life comes at you fast and none of us are guaranteed a tomorrow. The time to be ready to meet God is now—at this very moment.

As with most tragedies, blessings emerged. I’m grateful for our alert bus driver, Jim, whose quick action to avoid the tree prevented an even worst catastrophe. I’m thankful Miss Irma recovered from her injuries. I’m grateful for the neighbors who comforted and attended to our shaken young people. These neighbors were so impressed with the composure of our youth that they came to worship with us the following two Sundays. That’s a blessing. And whenever I read “a little child shall lead them” from Isaiah 11:6, I’m reminded of a high school sophomore who, in the heat of the moment, taught us all a valuable lesson on prayer.

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Wynne, Arkansas Disaster Relief: Amy’s Swing

Nahum 1:7 – “The Lord is good, a stronghold in the day of trouble; he knows those who take refuge in him.”

As I turned northward onto Peterson Road on Wynne, Arkansas’ eastside, I encountered a scene out of an apocalyptic war film. To the right, three homes had been completely wiped off a ridge by an EF-3 tornado that ripped through the town on March 31st. All that remained were driveways rising to concrete foundations. The still visible homes to the left were in shambles—barely standing among massive piles of debris. Windows were blown out. Construction material was strewn about and lodged in tree limbs as high as 40 feet. In every direction, there were gnarled tree limbs, crushed belongings, and shattered lives.

My mission that morning was to find someone to help. The organization I work with—the Churches of Christ Disaster Response Team—has volunteers from across the country, a semi-truck full of every tool imaginable, along with household supplies, construction material, and food. In a town so devastated by a natural disaster, finding someone to help would seem to be an easy task. The reality is that uninhabitable homes are vacant, and the owners of many salvageable homes are waiting on insurance claims to process before rebuilding can begin. 

As I was about to give up on finding a customer along this desolate, marred landscape, I spotted an older woman pushing a wheelbarrow full of debris across her front yard. The roof of her house was blown off and a large pile of debris rested in her front yard. Where there is manual labor underway, there is opportunity. I pulled into her driveway, approached her, and explained my purpose. The woman, Miss Kay, didn’t hesitate to respond.

“I appreciate your offer, but surely there are people in worse shape than us. We have been blessed.”

If that was her attempt to get me to leave, it didn’t work. People who think they are unworthy draw me in like a magnet. All the better that she was pushing a wheelbarrow to try to improve her situation. The Bible verse on the front of her t-shirt wasn’t required for her to receive help but added another dimension.

“Ma’am, I’m sorry this happened to you. We’re going to have some people here tomorrow morning to help you move that pile, cut down those tree limbs, and help you with anything else you need. May I ask if you were at home when the tornado hit?”

“We were. This was our new home—we’d only been in it a few months. My husband and I were inside along with one of our grandsons and his precious girlfriend. We huddled in a small coat closet and prayed out loud.”

“The tornado hit in the afternoon?”

“Yes, around 4 p.m. It came right over that ridge. Some of our neighbors lost everything. They always say a tornado sounds like a freight train and that’s what we heard. We thought this was the end for us—that it was time to join our girls.”

Miss Kay elaborated on her feelings in a Facebook post: “In the middle of all the horrible destruction we had peace. We all knew our Redeemer lives! We feel so blessed. Yes, we lost a lot but what we lost is all earthly and as we call it ‘just stuff’ and sometimes that’s what weighs us down, so we aren’t grieving the loss of our home. We are praising the Lord who sheltered us in that horrible storm. So now we should be homeless, but we have had so many people offer us shelter that our words of gratitude can’t cover what we feel for them… Yes, we are blessed much more than we deserve… There aren’t enough words to express what we feel in our hearts. Thank you is too small.”

Miss Kay

I asked Miss Kay about joining her girls—what she meant by that. She removed her gloves and wiped sweat from her brow.

“We lived in Murfreesboro, Tennessee, back in 1991. Emily, our youngest, was 16 at the time and our oldest, Amy, was 18. I heard a sermon one Sunday in which our preacher encouraged us to talk to our kids about faith. He said not to assume that faith is real or personal to our kids just because they go to church and are ‘good kids.’ You’ve got to talk to them.”

“So, you talked to your girls?”

“Yes, I called for a little mother-daughter conference. We climbed up on my bed for a heart to heart. Emily did most of the talking. She assured me, as did her sister, that her faith was real and genuine. She wasn’t pretending.”

Miss Kay took a deep breath and sat her work gloves down on the pile of debris in the wheelbarrow.

“The next day, Emily died in a car accident.”

“I’m so sorry, Miss Kay.”

“She was a Junior at Riverdale High School. The person she normally drove home with wasn’t available that day, so she got a ride with someone else. The driver went just a little on the shoulder of the road and then over-corrected. The driver survived but Emily did not. It was a tragedy, but I’m so thankful to God for that conversation we had the night before. Those were the last meaningful words we shared together. That was a blessing. That brought me peace.”

“I’m sure it did.”

“Steve, do you have a moment? I want to show you something out on the back porch.”

“Sure.”

We walked through her front door and past broken glass, exposed ceiling, and the closet where the family had hunkered down when the tornado came through. On the back porch, she called my attention to her grill.

“Are you familiar with the Big Green Egg?”

“Yes, ma’am, my dad used to have one of those.”

“Well, when the storm hit, Phil and I had three things on this back porch: the Big Green Egg, some wicker furniture, and my daughter Amy’s swing.”

Miss Kay took another deep breath and continued.

“This is where God was at work again. Amy had some heart problems—something that runs in our family. Several years ago, prior to moving with her family, she asked if I could hold on to her swing for her. This was our family swing—a place where we would gather to talk about life and faith and watch fireflies at night. Her new home didn’t have a place for it, so I agreed to take it and put it on our back porch here in Wynne. Well, back in December of 2020, in the middle of Covid, my sweet Amy got really sick and died suddenly of a heart attack. She was 47 and left behind a beautiful family.”

“I’m so sorry to hear that. Your family has been through so much.”

“We have, but God has carried us through all of it.”

“So, where does the Big Green Egg fit into all of this?”

“Good question. So, we had the Egg, Amy’s swing, and some wicker furniture on the porch. After the tornado, we found the Egg a quarter mile away in a neighbor’s yard. We still haven’t found the wicker furniture. But Amy’s swing was left unharmed, right where it sat.”

“That’s amazing!”

“Yes, and it wasn’t bolted down or anything. Aside from memories and her family, it’s really the only thing I have left from Amy. I think God spared it for us—to remind us of her.”

Amy’s Swing

“So, with the tornado barreling down on you guys, you thought you’d be joining Amy and Emily that afternoon.”

“We did, and that would have been okay—a blessing, really. We miss them so much. And someday we’ll join them. But God must still have plans for us.”

“Some more family time on Amy’s swing.”

“Yes, I think so. Our God is bigger than any storm. We’re just going to put our trust in Him and keep on keeping on.”

Sometimes disaster relief is about more than just handing out food and cutting up trees. Sometimes the conversations run deep.

So, as you talk to your kids about faith… on a pew, atop a bed, or perhaps on the family porch swing, remind them of this: The tornado that hit Wynne, Arkansas, on March 31st, 2023, was big and was devastating.

But also remind them of this: “The Lord is good, a stronghold in the day of trouble; he knows those who take refuge in him.” 

Our God is bigger than any storm.

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Kintsugi

“The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.” – Psalm 34:18

I’m around a lot of broken people. In the past two years, my in-laws who live with us have endured a combined three hip replacements, an eye surgery, a broken foot, Covid-19, shingles, pneumonia, diabetes, tremors, stage 3 kidney disease, and six falls. With all the medicines, medical equipment, and physical brokenness around us, our home feels like a hospital ward. My 89-year-old father-in-law often reminds us, “Getting old isn’t for sissies.”

I work with people going through emotional and financial brokenness. In myriad disaster zones, I’ve encountered people in shock from having lost almost everything. Many are too overwhelmed to know where to begin the recovery. They’re faced with burying loved ones, completing mounds of relief paperwork, and adjusting to life on a cot in a gymnasium full of other devastated souls. Some see their brokenness not as a temporary phenomenon but their new normal.

The prisoners and former prisoners I work with face multiple forms of brokenness. Some are in seemingly hopeless, lifelong battles with addiction. Many have destroyed relationships and lost contact with their closest friends and family. Most are in a crisis of faith, searching for a God who at times feels distant and uninvolved. Sitting across from my ministry partners and me in a cinder-block room in their gray pin-striped prison attire, they wonder how they ended up here. What will become of my broken family and my broken life? Does God have a plan for me? Is there any hope?

I feel inadequate in these situations. I don’t have the resources or training to make destitute people financially whole. I’m not qualified to offer medical advice on overcoming addiction or other physical ailments. I’m not a licensed psychologist, counselor, or attorney. My degrees in computer science and national defense aren’t all that useful when sitting next to a broken-hearted friend who, 48 hours earlier, was being administered Narcan from EMTs to save his life from another drug overdose.

Though unqualified to treat brokenness, I know a guy. I’m not referring to my doctor and dentist friends, Eddie and Jake, although they’re qualified to address many physical ailments. I’m not talking about my financial planner friend, Brook, although he’s helped various broken people get their finances back on track. 

No, the guy I know—the guy who can do the most good—is Jesus. As the Hebrews writer puts it, “For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin. Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need” (Hebrews 4:5-6).                                                                  

Jesus is always on call. He understands our struggles and knows the grief of losing a loved one. He suffered unimaginable physical and emotional pain and agony on the cross. He gets us. When offering advice or encouragement to broken people, I begin with Jesus. God’s Son and God’s Word provide comfort and guidance for people going through physical, emotional, or spiritual difficulty. Our Savior provides strength for enduring the challenges of this life and, more importantly, offers hope for an eternal life. He specializes in making broken people whole. 

When I think of Jesus’ approach to broken people, I think of the Japanese’ attitude toward broken pottery. They view the scattered broken pieces not as a shame but an opportunity. When there is no way to put the pieces back together without the cracks showing, the Japanese turn to Kintsugi. This centuries-old artform uses glittering liquid gold or powdered gold-dusted lacquer to repair broken cracks.

Kintsugi

Rather than hide the broken places, the Japanese embrace the imperfections. They leverage the scars. Using gold—one of the world’s most precious metals—they carefully join the broken pieces together to create something stronger and even more beautiful than the original. The visible flaws become an accepted part of the pottery’s history. What once was broken has been made whole again!

Are you, as the psalmist put it, brokenhearted and crushed in spirit? Has the devastating loss of a loved one, a life-altering addiction, or some other tragedy shattered your life into a thousand pieces? Are you concerned that you may never be whole again? If so, are you open to meeting a restorer who can apply pure gold to your broken pieces and create in you a new creation—a masterpiece?

If so, reach out to me. 

I know a guy.

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The Abundant Life

“I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.”        – John 10:10b

During my mom’s final few years of life, she began unloading her material possessions. Each time my sisters and I visited my parents’ home, we were reminded to take home an antique clock or stake a claim on one of the antique radios, vintage Hummel figurines, or Christmas village houses. 

With her earthly journey winding down, Mom understood that her possessions would not be accompanying her to Heaven. She understood Paul’s words from 2 Corinthians 4:18b: “For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal.” Though Mom couldn’t take these possessions with her, she experienced joy knowing that her beloved antique European stove and other heirlooms would continue to be enjoyed by her children. 

While these gifts were and are appreciated, they are just as transient for my sisters and me. We’ll enjoy them for a season and then pass them on to our children. Eventually, a figurine may break, an old radio may be discarded because it no longer works, or the Christmas Village may be lost in a fire. Ultimately, these things are all temporary.

When Jesus came to give us life—abundant lives—he was focused on spiritual matters. He traveled lightly and told his apostles to do the same. Our abundant, Spirit-filled lives begin the moment we become a Christian. He wants us to present our bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God—not once we get to Heaven, but today. He wants us to be transformed by the renewing of our minds not when our earthly lives are over, but this very moment (See Romans 12:1-2). Eternal life is not something that begins once I die—it’s a journey I began when I became a follower of Christ.

While I appreciate the various family heirlooms I’ve received, they are fleeting. If the thieves don’t get them, the moths and rust will (See Matthew 6:19-21). The real gift my parents gave me was taking me to worship services every Sunday. They modeled kindness, servanthood, and other lasting spiritual attributes for me—things unseen. Mom’s beloved figurines will not last, but my memories of her caring for special needs children have shaped me and will go with me into eternity. 

What unseen, eternal things are you leaving your children? Are you helping them store up treasures in Heaven? Are you modeling the abundant life Jesus calls us to live?

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